I’d like to propose (not a toast or a marriage!) that we all make a real concerted effort to make friends more readily.
It’s simple. Here is a traditional kindergarten/first grade first interaction:
CHILD ONE: Hi. You eating Cheetos?
CHILD TWO: Yes, I am eating Cheetos.
CHILD ONE: Great.
CHILD TWO: You are now my best friend.
I was talking about this with a friend earlier. When I meet someone I want to be friends with, I want to be friends with them Immediately. I want us to learn shit about each other and delight in each other.
One of the easiest and best friendships in my life is shared with my girl Jenny—when I think about becoming friends with her, it was so simple and so quick and I love her with a lot of my heart. Kindred souls, as Anne of fucking Green Gables would say. But Anne was right! Kindred souls are a thing that is real, and when I find someone who makes sense to me, I want us to know each other fast.
So here is my proposal.
Let’s go back to basics. When we want to be friends with someone, when something in another person speaks to the base of our brains, let’s take a second, assess the situation, and oh my god just let each other into our hearts by agreeing, then and there, to be friends.
That’s it. Super easy.
Find someone you like.
Ask them if they want to be friends with you. (And, if they don’t, try not to take it too personally/close to heart.)
When (not if, staying optimistic) they say yes, that’s it. You’re friends. Attend to the rules of friendship you already know and adhere to them to the best of your ability.
Think about how great this will be, and do it.
Looking forward to our next hug,